5 Things I Would Like to Do Before 2021

Good morning/evening/late night everyone. It’s currently 1 AM where I live and I had posted on Twitter and Instagram earlier that I would definitely be getting a post up. Well, I laid down with my son and decided I most certainly was not getting a post up. That was approximately 3 hours ago.

I was struggling with falling asleep and feeling tired really at all, so here I am, keeping my promise.

Today I will be talking about 5 things that I would like to do before this year is done. These are going to be things that I would like to accomplish, but I wouldn’t really say is a bucket list. This isn’t going to be things like “go on vacation” or stuff like that because, well, the world is falling apart.

So, let’s just get right into this and just know that I am eating some ice cream right now and have no shame.

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Decluttering My Life: Week 4 Check-in

Good morning everyone. I hope you all had a wonderful beginning of the week and continue to for the last half of the work week. If you didn’t have a great start to the week like me, then I hope the second half looks up.

What do you do when you’re feeling overwhelmed?

One of the things I do is sit down and come up with a plan. So that leads us into today’s post. We’re going to do a check-in with how I’m doing with my decluttering.

We’re into the fourth week of the year. The third full week, but the fourth week.

And I haven’t decluttered anything. Some of my son’s toys but I also had those packed up and ready before this year hit. He found the box and started digging through it so we got rid of it.

The question of the day comes into play with the lack of decluttering that I’ve done. I’m feeling overwhelmed. January is almost over and I feel like I haven’t been working toward my life goals. Reading, yes. Life, no.

So I’m going to make up a plan for the rest of this month and one for next month. We plan on moving out of our apartment in July so the less stuff we have to move, the better.

Plan of Action

There are 5 months that I would use for decluttering. February through June. And I have broken my apartment and life into 6 categories. One will be done this month.

January will be focused one general cleaning rather than organizing and decluttering, but I’m not going to let myself not declutter something so I’ll be focusing on my electronics.

My phone, iPad, and laptop. I’ll be moving documents off those and moving them to my external hard drive. I’ll be going through. The hard drive and try to organize it in a way that makes things easier to find when they are needed.

February will be focusing on the kitchen, March the living room, April the bedroom, May the playroom/library, and June will finally be the bathroom and closets (in my hallway and living room/entrance.

So that’s my general idea. For now, I’m going to share with you all the checklist that I’m going to use to track my progress with decluttering my electronics.

If you all want more graphics like that one, let me know and I can make them over my journey. I’m more of a visual person and I love making lists, so this will definitely help me out a lot.

Thanks so much for joining me and I hope you all enjoyed this post. Let me know how you are trying to minimize in your life.

Have a wonderful second half of the week. Always remember that you’ve been through worse and you’re only dealt cards you can handle, no matter how impossible it may seem right now.

Life Struggles | Triggers: Infertility, Depression, Miscarriage

Good evening everyone. So I was going to do a post about books that I would like to see as wall art, but I wanted to sit down and have a bit of a discussion with you all.

If you’re following my Instagram (and if not, you should!), then you probably know that I’ve been going through a bit of a lot recently. Last week I hit an all time low in my depression and even now I’m still stuck there, but I’m doing a lot better.

I’m sure you all have seen, but I discussed a couple months ago about my struggles with infertility and a miscarriage I had in June.

Briefly, I have been struggling to get pregnant for my second child since Jan 2016. In May 2019, I found out I was pregnant for the first time since coming off the depo shot (after only getting it twice and I was due for my third shot in Jan 2016). So, May comes, I’m pregnant! Yes! We couldn’t have been more happy. End of May, we tell my mom because we needed her to take time off work for the first ultrasound to watch my munchkin man.

The week before we were due for our first ultrasound (June 6th, to be exact). I woke up and was bleeding. We went in, got an ultrasound at 6 weeks, heartbeat was found but was low. We were told there was a high probability that we would lose the baby.

Went back the next week (the day of our original ultrasound) and discovered we lost the baby. No heartbeat. I made the choice to let everything pass naturally instead of getting a D&C. So, come beginning of July, everything finally passed. We were (and still are) heartbroken.

I bring this up again because it’s the basis for why I’ve been feeling the way that I have. I was due in January. It’s November. I would be two months away from having my second child. Two months.

But that wasn’t the case. We have been trying again. Tracking ovulation with ovulation strips (I know temping is better for all of you who know about tracking), doing to dirty as often as we wanted (and especially around ovulation). But haven’t had any luck.

This month it just hit me a lot harder when I started my period and discovered that once again, I wasn’t pregnant. Then add in the fact that I have a coworker who announced her pregnancy shortly (and I mean by days) after we were told we lost ours.

So I’ve been watching her grow and gush and complain. It’s been hard. She deserves this. I’m happy for her. I truly am. But it’s hard. Especially since I have been working more directly with her recently over normal.

Seasonal depression on top of all of that has been rough. Add in the fact my job has been making me miserable and you just have the whole shebang.

But I’m doing better. Let me just make sure I say that again. We’re back to trying, but not tracking anything. My period tracking app that usually shows ovulation and such, I’ve stopped using besides going into the discussion section to connect with other ladies that are struggling.

We’re just enjoying the process and hoping for the best.

I’m also internship searching! Which means I’m working on my resume which is a whole load of stress itself. I wanted to have it done today but I decided to take a step back to work on school work and posting something here.

I’m behind again. I know. I’m sorry. I’m sorry this wasn’t book related. I just needed to get it off my chest again. Thank you all for sticking around and supporting me. Thank you.

I’ll see you all in the next one! And it will be a lot happier, I promise! Remember to drink your water and smile any chance you can. If you every need to chat, especially if you’re feeling you have no one to talk to, please message me. If you’re going through infertility, you’re not alone and I support and love you.

Getting Yourself Out of a Rut

We’ve all been there. We’ve been just wanting to be better, but we can’t help ourselves from getting into a rut. It just happens and we can’t dig ourselves out.

We tell ourselves that we’ll do better tomorrow, next week, next month, next year. But that needs to stop. We can get ourselves out of these ruts.

Before we start getting into that, I want to point out that being in a rut every once in a while is normal. We’re allowed to have down days and weeks. We can take breaks.

But I’m sure you can relate when I say that there are times that I get myself down into the hole and want to get out, but can’t. I’ve had my chance to sit there and reflect, but now it’s time to start the climb to the surface. Sometimes I just need to take it all one step at a time and get there.

take the time to relax

So, I’d like to take a specific scenario that I’ve gone through more often than anything else. But this all applies to life ruts overall.

BookTube. I’ve been in a BookTube rut a few times. I’ve overworked myself and just ended up not happy with the stuff I was producing. Then I couldn’t bring myself to get back into it, despite my want to do it.

This last time I forced myself to stop and not get back into it, no matter how badly I wanted to. I came back stronger than before.

Make a plan

Come up with a plan of action. For me, it was waiting until the beginning of a month to start posting again. I came up with what videos I wanted to post and when. That leads into the next thing and the most important.

Start. Small.

Don’t throw yourself back into everything with no limits or restrictions. For me it was not posting a video a day or 5 of the 7 days in a week. I decided to post 3 times a week, no more, for at least the beginning. I got a bit behind and this past week I posted several videos. But I’m going back down to 3 a week. If I have an announcement or review, I will plan for it or just post it on an off day.

I won’t be pushing myself to post all the videos all the time. I don’t have the time or energy. But that’s okay.

Don’t pressure yourself

Okay, this is the most important. If you’re still not feeling up to whatever it is you’re trying to do, that’s perfectly okay. You don’t have to do everything. Just do what you can. Your mental health is the most important thing here.

You’ll get out of the rut when you are ready. Just focus on yourself and you will know when you’re ready.

I hope you enjoyed this little post and were able to get something out of it. I tried to keep it short and sweet, but also give you all a few little tips to help you out if you’re feeling stuck. I know it probably wasn’t anything new.

Have a wonderful day!

Trying to Build A Routine

Building a routine is something I’ve been trying to do for the past year or so. It still just hasn’t stuck.

I find myself procrastinating until the last minute to do everything. Here I am, the day before I wanted this post to go up, finally writing it. I don’t want to be like this. I want to be that person who is ahead of everything.

So that’s why I’m writing this post. I’m hoping that someone can connect with it and be able to become the person who doesn’t want until the last second to do everything. I’m hoping I’m that person as well.

So, here are some tips to building a routine from someone who knows how to build a routine, but doesn’t do it because she is not following these tips.

Have a reason

What is your reasoning for wanting to have a routine? These may seem like something to obvious, but sit down and figure it out. Why?

Here are my reasons for wanting to have a routine:

  1. For my son. I feel like not having him on a routine is not benefiting him at all. He’s as confused on when do things as I am.
  2. Content. Without a routine, I’m finding myself waiting until the last minute to do things and then everything is rushed. And that tends to show. It probably is in this post as well. I’m sorry.
  3. Consistence. If I’m waiting until the last minute to do everything, there’s a high likelihood that I won’t finish what I’m doing on time. Then I just decide I don’t have to do it. Hence the reason there wasn’t a post Friday.
  4. Happiness. I get stressed when things are rushed and I’m not being the best me I can be. So putting myself into a routine will help me to get the stuff done I want to get done and I’ll have a chance to be less stressed out.
  5. Time. If I’m on a routine, I’ll have more time. Does that make sense? Not entirely. Proceed to next tip.

Don’t do everything at once

One issue that I have is that I try to do everything at once. Sometimes it works because I’m in the flow of doing it. Other times, it stresses me out and I keep getting distracted, leading to me taking 5 hours to do a 1 hour task.

Block everything out. I will be getting into why Block Scheduling doesn’t work for me in another post, but I still like to incorporate a bit of it.

I have a rather short attention span. So, I have been trying to take 15-30 minutes at a time to do something before doing something else. That’s enough time to get going on some things and then stopping before I get distracted.

By taking everything a little bit at a time, it leads me to getting everything done quicker than realized.

I had a bad habit of waiting until the last minute to do my homework assignments. I spent this week taking a little at a time. Near the end of the week, I fell out of doing that. But even then, it took me so much less time to finish my assignments today than it did any other week.

Deadlines

Give yourself some deadlines. Have an assignment due Friday? Tell yourself you’ll have it done by Thursday. Then if something happens, you’ll have that bit of leeway. If you’re over paranoid, like me, make it Wednesday.

I try to do this with my posts and videos. I try to bulk film all my videos for the week over the weekend. Then I want to have them edited and ready to go the day before. I have realized that this isn’t enough leeway or motivation for me. So I’m going to try to make it two days this week.

Don’t Stress if you don’t get it

Things happen. Sometimes we aren’t meant to be on a routine.

That’s fine!

Everyone is different. We all have different lives. Some things work for some people, but don’t for others and that’s okay.

My routines are going to be very minor impacts on my life. I’m hoping to just set aside an hour or so a day for each thing. Sometimes more, sometimes less. I will adjust as needed. If it doesn’t work, that’s fine.

Don’t stress about it. Have fun. It’s your life and you can make of it what you will. Whether that be waking up and following a strict morning routine, making sure you eat breakfast and work out EVERY MORNING or just waking up and having a cup of coffee and reading a book. Dealing with the workout and breakfast when you are ready. If it doesn’t happen, that’s fine.


If you would like for me to do a post listing some healthy habits I either do or that I would like to incorporate into my life, let me know in the comments.

Also, let me pose a question for you:

What is one thing you want to add to your routine?

For me, it’s definitely yoga. I have never been someone who has done yoga religiously, but it is something I’ve always been interested in. I’ve tried adding it a few times, but then life happens and something goes wrong in my life, leading me to stopping. I’m hoping to pick it back up again soon. I even downloaded an app for daily yoga to see if it helps.

I’ll talk to you all in the comments. Until then, have a wonderful day and remember to smile.

Getting My Life Back Together

Good morning all! I suck, I know. I’m sorry. I meant to post something these past few weeks, but it’s been a rough time.

I was going to post something within the last week of August, but after looking at the first post I wanted going up in September, I figured “what better way to reset everything?”

So here we are, discussing how I plan on getting my life back together.

I’ve been a mess over the summer. I will get more into what lead to this in a future post, but there was a lot going on in my life both physically and mentally. But that’s all mostly passed (there’s still something I’ve been dealing with that is still ongoing, but overall the huge “problem” has passed), so it’s September and I’m ready for a reset!

I’m hoping that something else falls into place, but that’s out of my control at this point.

GYST

GYST is a term that I first heard from Kalyn Nicholson. It stands for Get Your Sh*t Together.

She usually uses Sundays to GYST and that’s when she resets everything and gets ready for the coming week. Cleaning, planning, working, and self care. Those are the main things that she focuses on.

I couldn’t find any videos strictly getting into her GYSTing, but this motivated me so much. Watching cleaning videos always motivates me to clean.
How am I personally going to incorporate this?

I broke this all down over the course of the week. This is the first week of my new classes, so the perfect time for me to come up with a new schedule that works for me. If you would like a post about my schooling and what I’m majoring in and hope to do after I graduate, let me know in the comments.

I have a problem with getting behind in class, so I’m going to be trying to keep up with everything. And when I say behind, I don’t mean that I’m actually behind. My stuff is turned in by the due date, but I cut it close. And I’m sick of it.

Here’s the general plan that I have:

-Monday-Friday: School Work (Weekends off/catch up time)
-Everday: Dishes and 15 mins cleaning intervals (as breaks from “work”)
Work: Instead of scheduling down to the detail when to do each step with my blog posts and youtube videos, I’m going to just write the tasks that go into creating each on the day I want it to go up and check them off as they get done
self care: Everyday. No ifs ands, or buts. I will be focusing on getting my health back on track by not eating so much junk food, cutting back on caffeine, bringing my lunch instead of buying, and working out (especially yoga again)

Routines

Another step in all of this is getting back on a routine. I know my body and I know what makes it work best. So, going along with this, I’m going to start with a sleep schedule and along with that will be a morning and night routine.

It’s hard with my son because I don’t have him most nights. The schedule his grandma has with him is different than the one I have with him on the weekends.

So morning routines (which will be my afternoon routines) will be my main focus with him.

Since I work overnights (10pm to 7am), it’s hard to get into a routine. But I’ve been doing it for 5 years. It’s about time to figure this crap out.

Morning Routine *Tentative* (Which is actually my night routine from approx 8pm to 10pm when I clock in)

8PM: Wake up, Drink Water, Check Phone (I know, bad but let’s be real here.)
8:15PM: Get up and Shower (if didn’t before bed)
8:30PM: Get Ready For Work
8:45PM-9PM: Leave For Work
9PM-10PM: Read and Eat Before Work

Night Routine *TentativE* (Actually afternoon/evening from approx 2-3pm)

After getting home from work in the morning, I will spend most of that time working and spending time with my munchkin man. If I try to go to sleep any later than 2 or 3, then I won’t be able to fall asleep. I’m going to start this at 2pm, but depending on how it goes, I may push it back to 1pm so I am in bed by 2pm.

2pm: Put down all electronics, start reading physical book
2:15pm: Wash Face, Brush Teeth, Shower if Alex is napping
2:30pm: Get everything ready for work
2:45pm: Wake Hubs, Get in bed, Read physical book
3pm: Go to sleep


So those are the two main things I want to focus on in September to get my life back together. I want to get into a routine and GYST. The main things I want to focus on GYSTing are my work, school, and cleaning. I need to start decluttering and the first step in that is going to be basic cleaning.

I hope you all enjoyed this post. If you want to join me in GYSTing and creating routines, feel free to message me on Instagram. I can always create a little group of people who are just trying to get their lives back together after the summer.

Let’s all live our best lives. We are all capable of doing so.

I look forward to speaking with you all in the comments and in future posts!

Bye!